While it is not uncommon for spouses in California involved in an unhappy marriage to think that staying together will benefit the children from the marriage, this is usually not the case. Exposing children to an unhealthy and unhappy marriage could cause more harm than good. In fact, research has shown that 80 percent of children who are involved in a divorce go on without any negative effects regarding their schooling, social skills or mental health.
There are several reasons for this, mostly due to a happier environment and the ability for each spouse to maintain a relationship with their children without the negativity often associated with an ex-spouse. It is also proven that parents who are not carrying the burden or guilt of being the cause of an unhealthy environment for their children are often stronger parents.
It is not uncommon for parents in an unhappy marriage to be distracted with issues between each other, which can take away from their time parenting. Parents may also express their displeasure with their spouse, which can have a negative impact on the children. Following a divorce however, parents can focus entirely on their relationship with their children, and not worry about other distractions that might play a role in an unhappy marriage.
When entering into a divorce, having a strong legal team at your side can make a big difference. There are many decisions that need to be made during the divorce process, including not only property division, but child custody and child support. You owe it to yourself and to your children to make certain that the divorce is handled properly and fairly.
Source: Psychology Today, "Yes, You Can Raise Happy Children After Divorce," Wendy Paris, March 17, 2015