"Hard, but beautiful" -- this is how actor Bill Hader described parenting during an interview with Conan O'Brien several years ago. Tustin parents have likely felt something similar at some point; a recognition of both the challenges and the rewards of raising children. One challenge Hader and many other parents will also experience is that of a divorce with child custody issues to resolve.
Hader and his wife met approximately 17 years ago, around the time Hader joined the cast of Saturday Night Live. They married after a year. Hader's recent filing for divorce in the California court system cites irreconcilable differences as the reason for the split. Hader and his wife have three daughters together, ranging in ages from 3 to 8 years.
Hader's filing seeks joint physical and legal custody of the three children. Also known as true joint custody, such a scenario involves two different elements. For one thing, the children spend equal time living with each parent. Secondly, the parents make major decisions together regarding how the children will be brought up and cared for.
Joint physical custody is somewhat uncommon in practice, as moving a child regularly back and forth between residences may have the potential to be disruptive. More common is for one parent to have primary physical custody -- the child lives with that parent most of the time -- with a parenting time schedule for the other parent. The shared decision-making element of joint legal custody is still possible while one parent assumes primary physical custody.
It's not known yet whether Hader and his soon-to-be ex-wife will agree to joint physical and legal custody. Tustin parents anticipating or dealing with questions like these may find sound advice from a legal professional experienced in family law issues.
Source: Pop Culture, "Bill Hader Officially Files for Divorce From Wife Maggie Carey," Tania Hussain, Dec. 23, 2017